What is the Law of Attraction? How can I use it to improve my chances of attracting those things that I truly desire? How can I use it to minimize the risk of getting undesired things appearing in my life?
Other important questions about the Law of Attraction are: Which processes are best, in terms of increasing my own attraction power? How should I align my thoughts and beliefs in order to put myself into “allowing mode”?
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First published Thu 9 Jan 2020; substantially revised Thu 14 Jul 2022 (Rev. 2).
This page is a no-nonsense overview of the Law of Attraction and how to use it.
This article is intended to serve two types of readers. It is meant primarily for beginners, who know little or nothing about this powerful principle.
However, this article also is meant for those who are not entirely new to the idea of the Law of Attraction. For there are many individuals who, for different reasons, may not yet have fully succeeded in applying this principle in their own lives.
Whoever you are, you are most welcome to this overview. I am hoping that this introductory guide will serve you well, and that you will acquire some preliminary confidence in the idea that the Law of Attraction is a worthwhile project for you, with the potential to give you a very happy and joyful life.
- PART 1: UNDERSTANDING THE LAW OF ATTRACTION
- 1.1 What Is the Law of Attraction?
- 1.2 Is the Law of Attraction Proven False??
- 1.3 Is the Law of Attraction Proven by Science?
- 1.4 Are the Scientists Right About the Law of Attraction?
- 1.5 Why Would Anyone Want to Use the Law of Attraction?
- 1.6 Is the Law of Attraction Too Good to Be True?
- PART 2: APPLYING THE LAW OF ATTRACTION
- 2.1 Who Can Start Using the Law of Attraction?
- 2.2 How Should I Best Use the Law of Attraction?
- 2.3 How Should I Feel Before My Manifestations Appear?
- 2.4 The 2 Phases of Mastering the Law of Attraction
- 2.5 What Should My First Goal Be with the Law of Attraction?
- 2.6 The 3 Steps of Creating with the Law of Attraction
- 2.7 The Correct Law of Attraction Mindset
- 2.8 Why Do People Not Succeed with the Law of Attraction?
- 2.9 Who Succeeds with the Law of Attraction?
- PART 3: LAW OF ATTRACTION AND SPECIFIC GOALS
- 3.1 Money and Wealth
- 3.2 Relationships
- 3.3 Health & Well-Being
- PART 4: BEST LAW OF ATTRACTION QUOTES
- 4.1 Best Quotes on the Law of Attraction
- 4.2 Best Quotes on Our Place in the Universe
- 4.3 Best Quotes on Manifesting Money
- 4.4 Best Quotes on Manifesting Relationships
- 4.5 Best Quotes on Manifesting Good Health
- PART 5: LAW OF ATTRACTION RESOURCES
- 5.1 Best Law of Attraction Books
- 5.2 Articles on the Law of Attraction
PART 1: UNDERSTANDING THE LAW OF ATTRACTION
The focus in Part 1 is to give a brief introduction to the Law of Attraction. Along with that, there are also some “motivational” sections that may help the reader to decide whether or not the Law of Attraction should be taken seriously, and be practiced in their own life.
What Is the Law of Attraction?
The Law of Attraction is a universal principle that essentially says “like vibrations attract like vibrations”.
The basic idea here is that every person is a transmitter of thought energy, and that the universe is listening to his or her (continuous) broadcasts, and then boomeranging back similar vibrations.
This “bounce-back” may be thought of as the universe is reasoning something like this: “If you are transmitting a certain vibration or signal, you must do so because you like that vibration or signal. So I, the Universe, will give you some more such vibrations to play with, since you seem to like them so much.”
So whatever we focus our attention on, whether it is something that we like or love, or whether it is something that we dislike or hate, creates a vibration within us, which then the Universe responds to.
The upshot is this: We CREATE our own reality. And we do that by the quality and intensity of our thoughts, beliefs, and emotions. Whether we like a thing or not, by focusing on it we invite it into our experience.
So the goal, for a student of the Law of Attraction, is (theoretically) simple: we “just” have to learn how to “steer” our thoughts, beliefs, and emotions in the right way, in order to create a better life-world for ourselves.
Only when we have developed an understanding of this “art of steering” will we be able to substantially influence our life experience in the right direction, making it better and better, day by day, week by week, year by year.
Is the Law of Attraction Proven False?
There are many people on the internet that claim that the Law of Attraction is “hype” or “false” or “metaphysical pseudoscience”. But when looking at such claims we find that those arguments are not really very good.
So in my extensive research about such arguments (see my comprehensive article called “Law of Attraction: Is It Real?” which summarizes my research) I have found that most of them have no real substance. And even if some arguments have some merit to them, none of them establishes that the Law of Attraction is not real.
Is the Law of Attraction Proven by Science?
Although many authors and bloggers suggest that the Law of Attraction is “scientific”, or that “it is based on quantum mechanics”, or similar such things, the fact of the matter is that, to my knowledge, no reputable scientist, whether in the field of psychology or in theoretical physics or in any other field of academic study, has conclusively proven that the Law of Attraction is real.
In my article my article “Law of Attraction: When Will It Be Proven By Science?” I have outlined many factors that might explain why Law of Attraction is not yet verified by the scientific establishment. However, one important factor is that many scientists have very little regard for the Law of Attraction; so for them, Law of Attraction is just some pseudoscience or pure “nonsense”.
But the fact that Law of Attraction is not yet labelled as a proven principle by the leading scientists in the accredited institutions does not prove that the Law of Attraction is not real. Therefore, their stance on the matter need not affect — in any way, shape, or form — our own potential to use it for our personal purposes.
Just as no-one prior to Newton or Galileo needed the scientific establishment’s approval of gravitation as a “scientific fact” in order to use gravitation in their daily lives, no-one in our age needs the scientific community’s acceptance of the Law of Attraction as a “proven principle” to start creating a better life for themselves.
Are the Scientists Right About the Law of Attraction?
So the fact that the scientists have not yet verified the existence of the Law of Attraction does not hinder anyone from using it. That is, unless someone thinks that the scientists have a point.
Therefore, the question is this: Do you think that the scientists are always right about everything? Or do you think that they are right at least in this case?
If so, then that may be an obstacle for you, in terms of your own acceptance of the Law of Attraction, and your future progress. So in that case you would typically need to transform that belief into a belief that will serve you better.
But no worries. This might be done gradually. And the more you participate in the various recommended techniques and practices that students of the Law of Attraction typically are engaged in, the more first-hand evidence of the Law of Attraction you will get.
As a consequence, your own experiences will strengthen your preliminary belief that the scientists may not necessarily be right about the validity of the Law of Attraction, etc.
So it is a matter of entering a “feedback loop” of positivity, where one’s beliefs and factual experiences are gradually molded into a new place: a place where doubts become less and less of a concern, and where life becomes more positive, more enjoyable, and where everything just feels so much better than before, on a daily basis.
Why Would Anyone Want to Use the Law of Attraction?
The main reason why deliberate manifestation with the Law of Attraction is so attractive is because it enables us to acquire a more general sense of well-being, with more happiness and joy, more positivity and optimism, more confidence and self-esteem, and many other similarly wonderful things.
The more authentically positive and optimistic we become as we are moving up toward, and into, the positive half of the negativity-positivity spectrum, the more good things will come our way. It is law.
In short, the presence of the Law of Attraction gives us the opportunity to take control of our life experience, and make it better and better, the more we continue doing it.
Is the Law of Attraction Too Good to Be True?
Some people might say that the Law of Attraction simply sounds too good to be true. Can we really get everything we desire?
The answer to that question is, indeed, a “Yes”. But we cannot have all of those things if we are not very deliberately setting ourselves up for success.
So it is not a “free lunch” kind of deal. It is always accompanied by “serious” inner work (as opposed to physical work), which, to most people, may not sound all that attractive.
But that is what deliberate creation is all about. It is an internal, mental, and psychological affair. That is where the “battle” is. It’s in there, inside of ourselves, where we lay the foundation for how this particular lifetime of ours is going to play out in “the real world”.
The overall conclusion, then, is that the Law of Attraction is NOT too good to be true. For there is typically a substantial amount of preparatory inner work to be done before the desired (typically gross physical) manifestations will appear in one’s experience.
PART 2: APPLYING THE LAW OF ATTRACTION
The focus in Part 2 is to give the reader a detailed and authorized account of how to apply the Law of Attraction in a successful way.
However, the reader should be aware that this is still introductory material, intended for beginners. Thus, for a serious student of the Law of Attraction, there is much more to be learned than what is presented below.
Who Can Start Using the Law of Attraction?
The Law of Attraction is open to everyone, whether we are male or female, Europeans or Americans, teenagers or retired. But all people may not be equally open to the idea of starting to use it.
Everyone has a different starting point on the emotional scale, and on the “motivational” scale as well. And whatever that starting point is, is okay. We all have to start somewhere.
This is, however, not to say that it is equally easy, or equally quick, to reach the first “zone” of positivity, the level of P1 (“slightly positive”). Rather, the amount of time and effort needed to reach P1 is heavily dependent on one’s current state of thoughts, beliefs, and emotions.
Someone starting out as an N1 (“slightly negative”) usually has relatively little resistance to the idea of self-improvement and self-development. He or she can thus quite easily be motivated by the promise of more positivity, happiness, and success.
However, someone starting out as an N2 (“medium negative”) or an N3 (“strongly negative”) may not be so easily convinced. This is because the Law of Attraction keeps their negativity going, making them more “stuck in their groove”, like a broken record.
But if such N2s and N3s, in a period of temporarily feeling better, could start soothing themselves more, and understand the value of self-acceptance and self-love, and take advantage of various other self-help techniques, they too could gradually, step by step, move their vibration upward: first to N1, and then, in the next step, continue toward P1.
How Should I Best Use the Law of Attraction?
In my view, the Law of Attraction should primarily be viewed as a tool for a more happy and fulfilled life, rather than as a tool for particular desired manifestations (cars, villas, truckloads of money).
The reasoning behind this is that individual desired manifestations seldom give continuous happiness and satisfaction anyway. They may be thrilling for a day or two, or a week or two, but their awesomeness usually fades away quite quickly. Thus, the appearance of a few such manifestations are no guarantee for a continuously happy and fulfilled life, as a whole.
But if we instead start by creating a happy and fulfilled life for ourselves, without those particular manifestations, then we do not really need any particular manifestations to get that wonderful feeling. For we already know how to generate such emotions. So what we really want is not the manifestation itself, but the feeling of it. And that can be achieved by practice.
And when we have acquired that feeling of happiness and success, no matter what our “physical” circumstances may be, then we are in an excellent position to actually receive all those manifestations that we have previously identified.
So instead of “forcing” or “making” the manifestations appear (by various types of “focus-on-that-thing-until-it-manifests” tactics), we are now letting the manifestations appear by their own accord, as a natural consequence of our new relaxed, joyful, and care-free mood.
How Should I Feel Before My Manifestations Appear?
As I see it, mastering the Law of Attraction is not about manifesting a particular sports car, or a fancy condominium, or an attractive spouse. All such things may of course be wonderful in their own right to have, and we may very well desire them wholeheartedly. But what do we do in mean time, before we get them?
My point is this. We cannot be dependent on our current physical reality for our happiness. For if we are, then we will never be able to be get really happy. I mean, how can we be really happy right now, when those desired manifestations have not appeared yet? Where are they, by the way?
The task at hand is thus not to manifest gross physical things, at least not right now. Rather it’s about manifesting fine-physical things, such as good-feeling thoughts and good-feeling emotions.
Mastering the Law of Attraction is about a gradual shift in one’s thoughts and beliefs, which then (if one does everything right) may lead to a brighter and better emotional place.
Such a shift is dependent on the student’s willingness to “edit” his or her own set of thoughts, beliefs, and emotions, and nudge them in the direction of that which feels slightly better.
Although this shift certainly is gradual, it is important to note that there typically will be many stumbling blocks along the way: How quickly and smoothly can you come to believe that you are worth everything you desire? Or that you REALLY have created everything that is in your current reality, including all your diseases, money troubles, and relationship screw-ups?
So the job is not JUST to realize what is really going on in this world, in terms of how the Law of Attraction operates. It is also to recover from that realization, which to many people can be quite shocking and dramatic.
The 2 Phases of Mastering the Law of Attraction
So what is the overall plan, then? The plan is for the student of the Law of Attraction to participate in a process of self-discovery, where he or she gradually develops a more positive emotional attitude, with more energy, more motivation, more happiness, and more well-being than previously.
The two major phases of this development are these. In Phase One the focus is on developing full self-acceptance; in Phase Two the focus is on developing full self-love.
Phase One: Self-Acceptance
Let’s look at Phase One first. This is where self-acceptance is the main focus.
As I have pointed out in one of my articles, the concept of self-acceptance has not yet found its way into most of the standard psychological reference works. But the few reputable resources that are available suggest that self-acceptance, loosely speaking, is about accepting both one’s good sides and one’s bad sides.
However, as I have said in another article of mine on self-acceptance, the idea of self-acceptance cannot have anything to do with accepting one’s good sides. For if one perceives some of one’s qualities to be good in the first place, it means that they are already accepted. That is, “good” means, or entails, “accepted” (and more).
Thus, self-acceptance is only about overcoming those aspects of oneself that one perceives to be inadequate (or worrysome, or problematic) in some way. It might be a perceived inadequacy in terms of one’s physical appearance, or one’s physical capabilities, or, perhaps, one’s intellectual capabilities.
So the project is then to overcome these feelings of inadequacy and instead (gradually) develop a sense of “I am not only okay, but I am hopeful and optimistic about my future.”
Therefore, the “end point” for the acquiring of full self-acceptance is P1, the emotional place where we have established a basic flavor of hope and optimism. So the development graph looks like this (click image to enlarge):
Figure 1. It is only meaningful to talk of a certain level of self-acceptance if the individual is on the negative side of the NP spectrum. As soon as the individual has improved his emotional range so that it is on the positive side of the negativity-positivity spectrum (i.e., at P1 or higher), his or her self-acceptance is considered to be full (and therefore constant).
Typically most people will start at N2 (“medium negativity”) or N1 (“weak negativity”) and gradually work themselves up to P1 (“weak positivity”). That is the point of full self-acceptance.
And having reached this place, they now can get on with their lives in a much more pleasant way. And now they are also eligible for Phase Two, where they can continue their emotional journey.
Phase Two: Self-Love
Having acquired the basic quality of self-acceptance, it is now time for the next phase, namely the development of true self-love. As the following graph illustrates, self-love starts where self-acceptance ends, at P1 (click image to enlarge):
Figure 2. It only meaningful to talk of self-love if the individual is already on the positive side of the NP spectrum. If he or she is on the negative side of the NP spectrum, there is no real “self-love” to talk about, only various degrees of self-blame, etc. Self-love only starts when the individual has achieved full self-acceptance, that is, when he or she has reached P1.
Self-love is thus dependent on self-acceptance. Full self-acceptance must first be achieved before anything resembling self-love can begin to manifest.
Having reached P1, one can then continue one’s inner work, molding one’s thoughts, beliefs, and emotions into an even better place, and thereby gradually develop more and more love for oneself, as well as for others.
For the presence of emotional selfishness does not indicate a diminishing of love for others; on the contrary, the whole goal of the process is to increase all types of love: self-love, love for other people, love for animals, love for nature, love for anything.
The ultimate gesture of love for other people is to practically convey to them that they must adopt the philosophy of emotional selfishness themselves. So the idea is this, but it is typically not expressed in words, but in practical action:
“You must start to mind your own emotional business, as I do. That is the only way for you to get really happy. Complaining to me, or to anyone else, will take you absolutely nowhere.”
The best course of practical action is dependent on the situation. But if nothing else seems right, one can always just leave. For a person devoted to emotional selfishness is typically also an expert at finding good excuses for why he or she now suddenly has leave the scene, without further delay.
What Should My First Goal Be with the Law of Attraction?
If I decide to start practicing deliberate manifesting with the Law of Attraction, what would be my first goal? How do I think about “gradual development”? How long does it take? How can I get a sense of that?
When it comes to the Law of Attraction, progress is measured in terms of how good you feel: How energetic are you? How optimistic and positive are you? How care-free are you? Are you worried? Are you fearful? Are you angry? Are you confused?
By looking at the negativity-positivity (NP) spectrum (see below) you can get an approximate sense of where you are at. Most people will typically find themselves either in the N2 region (“medium negative”) or in the N1 region (“slightly negative”).
Note, however, that the general rule is simply to gradually feel better, day by day, week by week. There is no need to formalize it in any way, if you don’t want to.
But just to illustrate the general idea, it might be helpful to think of self-improvement as a relative process, in relation to your own unique starting point.
So although reaching the P1 region certainly is a desired goal and a major breakthrough (and the starting point of a very bright future), all people should not have that as their first goal.
Consider the following example, where a person’s emotional range is classified as an N1 (“mildly negative”). As you can see in the diagram, because of his or her proximity to the P1 region, it is quite appropriate to have a short-term goal of reaching P1 in the near future (click image to enlarge):
Figure 3. For a person classified as an N1 (solid line), it is appropriate to set a short-term goal of moving up into P1 (dotted line) in the near future.
When I am using the word “short-term goal”, I am here referring to a goal that typically is no farther away than a couple of weeks or a couple of months.
This does not mean, however, that all persons who are in the N1 area will necessarily succeed in developing their emotional status in that time frame. For everyone’s circumstances and level of commitment are different. But still, it is a reasonable amount of time to make some substantial improvement of one’s emotional situation, even if one perhaps doesn’t make it all the way to P1.
In the second example we have a person who is classified as an N2 (“medium negative”). As you can see in the diagram, this person is much further away from the P1 region than the person in N1 is (click image to enlarge):
Figure 4. For a person classified as an N2 (solid line), it is important to not set a too distant short-term goal. As illustrated here, such a goal should typically be only half-way to N1 (dotted line).
Therefore, a person in N2 should not have P1 as his or her first short-term goal. The distance between the N2 area and the P1 area is simply too great. At the most, his or her short-term goal should be one unit up from where they are. Thus, a person in N2 should use N1 as their maximum short term goal.
I say “maximum” short term goal, because that is typically not the normal short-term goal for a person situated in N2. The “maximum” short term goal should only be used for N2 individuals who are unusually motivated and cooperative. Otherwise, the level of ambition should be lowered.
The reason for the lower level of ambition is this. An N2 has a substantially higher degree of negativity in his or her system than an N1 individual has. Because of his or her less positive emotional status, the prospect of self-improvement for an N2 individual must be regarded as less “secure” and more unpredictable.
This then leads us to recommend that the rate of progress must be lowered, as to give more room for possible periods of doubting the process, or even developing a general non-interest in completing the process, etc.
So instead of using a jump of one full unit, one might use a smaller increment, such as 2/3 of a unit, or 1/2 of a unit, or something along those lines, just in order to make the process more doable for a person in N2.
The 3 Steps of Creating with the Law of Attraction
The process of creating your own reality consists of three individual steps. But only one of these steps needs to be actively addressed by you, in order for you to let in those things that you truly desire.
Step One: You Ask for Something
The first step is that you put in your order to the Universe. Although this “order” might be communicated verbally, you actually mostly do this vibrationally, in a non-verbal fashion, by emitting a signal containing your preferences. Many times such broadcasts of yours are a direct result of you experiencing a very unpleasant situation, at which time you strongly, and immediately, identify how you would want things to be instead.
In other words, the ordering process is more or less automatic, whether you know of the Law of Attraction or not. Thus, there is no need for any “visualization” exercises or other practices to define what you want. The asking is already done, in this lifetime and in previous ones. Your preferences are incredibly well defined, with millions of details of all various aspects of how you want your life to unfold.
In other words, there is nothing more for you to do in regard to Step One. Your asking is done. Really, it’s done. D-O-N-E.
Step Two: The Universe Processes Your Order
All orders are attended to in a very timely fashion by Source, the superconscious God-force that resides in the non-physical realm. All details of your preferences, large and small, are noted. Every question is answered, every desire is fulfilled.
The embryos of your manifestations are, however, not transferred into physical reality immediately. They are stored in a warehouse in the sky (think “in the cloud”), waiting for delivery. But when will they be delivered, then? When the recipient is broadcasting the right type of signal (Step Three).
Step Two is thus not your work. But Step Three is.
Step Three: You Allow Your Desired Things In
A serious student of the Law of Attraction always focuses most of his energy on Step Three: the idea of “allowing” or “letting it in”. And how is that done? By preparing his or her vibration (thought waves, mood, attitude) in such a way that the resulting signal is accepted by the Universe. That is the delivery signal for the Universe Parcel Service.
But how, exactly, is that “letting in” thing really done? By abandoning the question mode. So one must abandon questions such as: “Did I mention I want a new Ferrari?”, “Why have my things not arrived yet?”, “What am I doing wrong since I can’t see my things yet?”, “Does the Law of Attraction really work?”, etc.
Instead of offering such questions, one must turn to the answering mode.
The difference between the question mode and the answering mode is this: If you are speaking all the time, how can you hear the answers? Stop speaking, and start listening instead. That is, stop thinking in the question mode. Stop emitting those nervous vibrations. Instead relax. Meditate. Spend time in nature. Only then will you be able to let things in.
So the “trick” then, for successful manifestation, is to only care about feeling good. It’s about relaxing, enjoying life, and not taking things so seriously. Work less, play more.
You must let go of fears, of productivity demands, of responsibility demands, of fears of not being competitive enough, or rich enough, or intelligent enough, etc. All of that has to stop, gradually.
You must understand that you have nothing to prove to anyone. You are just as worthy as everyone else. So you must start believing that, deep down in your heart. Chill out. Go inside. And soothe yourself, for immediate relief, in stressful situations.
The Correct Law of Attraction Mindset
Mastering the Law of Attraction requires a certain mindset. One component of such a mindset is the idea that everything revolves around you. So to think “I am the center of the world” is perfectly natural, for a student of the Law of Attraction. There is no-one more important than you, for you.
This then practically translates to a type of emotional selfishness that will be hard to hide in the world. For your primary goal in everyday life is to feel good yourself. In other words, your primary goal is not to make other people feel good. That is their responsibility.
Thus, a potential student of the Law of Attraction has to be aware that there will be little room for things such as sympathy, empathy, compassion, etc. For all those things are typically connected to situations in which other people are complaining about their own problems, and try to drag you into all of it.
But since you have no plans of lowering your vibration to their level, you must either quickly switch subject (see the 17-second rule, and some practical tips), or leave the scene altogether (see the “not now” technique).
So your new attitude and behavior may substantially affect your sphere of friends, family, and other people you know. You might very well lose some of them, or make them mad or annoyed, etc. But that is their problem, not yours.
Your mindset must be that your happiness is the only thing that counts. So you cannot focus on (think about, talk about, write about, blog about) what other people think of you. You must quickly accept, by yourself (i.e. without discussing it with anyone else), that you now are disliked by some people, and then immediately turn your attention to other things that do make you feel good.
The expectation is thus that a serious Law of Attraction student will get more and more time for himself or herself, since very few people will accept his or her selfish attitude.
But that only makes things better for the student: for not only does it pave the way for new and better people to enter into his or her life (by the grace of the Law of Attraction), but it also gives him or her more time and space to focus on their important inner psychological work.
Why Do People Not Succeed with the Law of Attraction?
If the Law of Attraction is real, why is it then that so many people fail in their attempts of creating a better life for themselves? Does that not indicate that Law of Attraction is a bogus philosophy, after all?
The fact that many people so-called “fail” in their attempts to manifest things with the Law of Attraction is no conclusive proof for that the Law of Attraction is not real. It may instead merely be an indication that there is something lacking in their particular approach.
Here are some common mistakes (and there are many more!):
1. Using the wrong source material. The overwhelming majority of books and online resources on the Law of Attraction do not portray the Law of Attraction as it is. Using such books and online resources will not create optimal results, or any results at all.
2. Not following the recommendations. Even with the best authoritative material on the Law of Attraction at hand, a student must actually follow the recommendations. There are many small details to think about, all of which contribute substantially to the result.
3. Expecting quick results. Although some manifestations can be quick, most manifestations take considerable time. This is particularly true if one is trying to manifest things that previously have been troublesome to attain. So if beautiful brides and high-paying jobs have not previously manifested in one’s life, there is much inner work on worthiness to be done before that will change. Think years.
4. Asking “Where Is It?” This is the same as point 3 above. One must stop asking this question in order to receive. For answers (i.e., manifestations) and questions are totally different frequencies. Your desired manifestations will only come when you are ready for it, when you have lowered your resistance, and can let the result in.
5. Not stopping observing reality. A successful student of the Law of Attraction must stop being so interested in the current reality, especially if it’s about some negative developments. The current reality is old news. Stop watching the news. Stop reading newspapers. Stop discussing politics. Stop being so interested in what other people do or don’t do.
6. Being afraid of not being popular. Many people are afraid of losing their friends, or of not being well-liked by others. So they try various kinds of people-pleasing maneuvers, to gain in popularity. In doing so they compromise their most valuable asset: their own positivity and their inner sense of feeling good. To succeed with the Law of Attraction one must be emotionally selfish and non-empathic. And not be very interested in other people’s opinion.
Who Succeeds with the Law of Attraction?
So who, then, succeeds with the Law of Attraction?
Well, in one sense, everyone succeeds with the Law of Attraction. For just like the law of gravitation, one cannot avoid using it. The Law of Attraction penetrates all spheres of existence, and there is no place where it is not an active principle.
Thus we may say that all people manifest “successfully”, every day of their lives, for they do manage to materialize all those things that they choose to focus their attention on.
This means that everyone is a master creator, in a sense. But since most people’s emotional state is at N2 (“medium negative”) or at N1 (“slightly negative”), their manifestations are typically also mostly negative. Many people are experts at creating trouble for themselves, by watching what happens around them, and then focusing on various negative aspects of that current reality.
So now let us turn to a better question to ask: What are the characteristics of those people who are using the Law of Attraction deliberately, so that they always maximize their positive manifestations and minimize their negative manifestations?
And the answer to that question is always: Those who are more interested in FEELING GOOD than in any other thing.
Such emotionally selfish people are consistently perfecting the art of increasing their well-being by gradually adopting a philosophy of worthiness for themselves, whereby they no longer need to prove themselves to others.
They learn to quickly disengage in heated discussions, so that they instead can maintain their good-feeling emotional balance.
They get less and less interested in “being understood” and “being right”, because they know that it takes too much time and energy to explain it all. And they also know that most people won’t really understand them anyway.
They invest less and less time and energy in trying to impress or persuade other people of their own excellence. They know that their self-worth and self-esteem is not a function of what other people think of them, but that it is an innate quality in themselves, which simply has to be “dusted off” of all the earthly non-loving dust that has accumulated over time.
In short, they are independent creatures. They are not seekers of compassion or of support from other people, because they do not see themselves as victims. They mind their own emotional business, and they realize that their own happiness and well-being is only dependent on themselves, and no-one else. So they go for it.
PART 3: LAW OF ATTRACTION AND SPECIFIC GOALS
In Part 3 the focus is on the manifestation of particular things that you are desiring. The three categories that I cover here are those that most people are interested in manifesting, namely money, relationships, and health.
Note, however, that I am not actually recommending that you should focus your attention on any of these specific goals in order to bring them about quicker. Your preferences are already noted by the Universe, so there is no “visualization” needed. The Universe already knows what you desire, in minute detail. Your only job is to start relaxing more, being thoroughly happy and joyful in your current situation without the manifestations, and then let the process take the time it takes. So chill out more!
Money and Wealth
Money and wealth are surely wonderful resources to have. Having those things will enable you to do whatever you want, whenever you want it. The question is just: why don’t you already have all that money and wealth that you are desiring so much?
Because, on some level, you don’t think you deserve it. Maybe you think that you haven’t worked hard enough? Maybe you think that you haven’t worked smartly enough? Maybe you think that you haven’t worked long enough? Maybe you think that only those who are born in the right families, or have the right kind of friends, are eligible for success?
Whatever it is that you are thinking, it basically always boils down to the same thing: you do not think that you are worthy of success. You don’t think that you deserve it. Thus, if there is no possibility of success for you, then why go after it?
Your mindset must change, gradually. You must, one way or other, develop a belief, and a feeling, that you are worthy. For you are, theoretically speaking, precisely as worthy as any other person on this planet.
The only difference between you and those who have all the money and wealth they’ve ever dreamed of is that they think, and feel, that they are worthy of it. And that makes them not just theoretically worthy, but also practically worthy. And that is why they have what they have. It’s a thought-belief-emotion thing.
Just as worthiness is very important in the case of money, it is also very important in relationships. So you must really think that you deserve to be with the most beautiful and charming woman ever, or with the most handsome and impressive man ever (depending on your sexual preferences, of course).
But compared with money, there are also other potential obstacles to consider. An important issue is the question of whether you actually want to commit to a traditional relationship, or not. Perhaps a more “loose” and less rigid relationship would be better?
I am saying this because a student of the Law of Attraction must always foster in himself or herself the idea of emotional selfishness and independence. Such a student is therefore not dependent on other people to feel good. This, of course, does not hinder that the student may love someone else; that’s just a nice bonus.
The “worry” though, is that emotionally selfish people are mostly not accepted by the other part (if the other part is not a serious student of the Law of Attraction himself or herself). For the typical expectation is that a traditional relationship should involve some kind of commitment vows (whether expressed implicitly or explicitly), such as “for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health”.
But a student of the Law of Attraction is typically not so interested in strong commitments in relationships, because of their general attitude of selfishness and independence. So he or she is typically not very interested in supporting others who have problems: for if the other person becomes sick, or poor, or end up in trouble, then, according to the Law of Attraction, that is just a result of the other person’s thoughts, beliefs, and emotions. And that is their business.
Another potential obstacle is the permanence and the bondage of traditional relationships. A common expectation is that the relationship, after a certain time, should move on “to the next level”, where further commitments are made: perhaps an informal decision to move in with each other, or a formal engagement, or a marriage. And, perhaps, also accompanied by the condition that it should be “until death do us part” as well.
Overall, traditional types of relationship typically fit very badly with the mindset of a student of the Law of Attraction. Not only must the student always have lots of time and space for his own spiritual exercises (so why move in with someone else?), he or she also realizes that when things don’t feel right anymore, what would the point be staying together?
And since the student has the mindset of “abundance”, not just in relation to money and wealth, but also in relation to other things, he or she quickly realizes that there is also a cornucopia of other attractive women or men available that one could start to appreciate instead, or even at the same time.
The only relationship that I would recommend for a student of the Law of Attraction would be one where both parties are enthusiastic students of the Law of Attraction, and where they each live by their own, and where they, now and then, come together in a celebration of romance and adventure and fun. That is, in my estimation, the only way to really keep the spirit of love, excitement, and “wonderfulness” alive in a physical relationship.
Health & Well-Being
The lack of money and relationships may be regarded to be problematic for many people and may result in a type of psychological suffering. So it is only natural that there is a very broad interest for manifesting those things with the Law of Attraction.
But another area that can be even more problematic is the lack of physical health. For in addition to one’s psychological state of mind of not having it, one might also experience some level of physical discomfort, perhaps even a chronic one.
Aggravating this type of discomfort may be the diagnosis of physicians and doctors, who in some cases may simply say that they cannot really help you to solve the issue. So you’re basically on your own.
But no worries. This is the best position to be in, for a future student of the Law of Attraction. For having exhausted all other possibilities, his or her only chance to get well is to channel all energy into the idea that the Law of Attraction is real, and that it might work.
So the goal, then, for such a student, is to gradually move away from his or her strongly negative emotional territory (N3, N2) where all serious medical conditions reside, and at least reach the softer realm of N1 (“weak negativity”), where conditions will improve somewhat. From there the next step would be to reach full self-acceptance, P1 (“somewhat positive”), after which one can proceed to the acquiring of more self-love, and more and more positive health.
But this process may not be entirely easy, especially in the start. There are two reasons for this. One reason is simply that those who experience severe physical pain typically always are N2s (“medium negative”) or N3s (“strongly negative”). So getting out of their strongly charged negative territory is not an entirely easy (or quick) task, even if they would experience no physical pain.
The second reason is that their physical discomfort, in combination with the typical tendency to continuously observe one’s particular malady and complain about it, will prevent their progress. The more we focus our attention on our particular condition and complain about it (whether to ourselves, or to others), the more we “re-manifest” our troublesome situation into our own experience.
The difference between success and failure is basically this: you can have pain and complain about it, or you can have pain and be hopeful about it. If you choose the former, your situation will stay the same (or become worse); if you choose the latter, your situation will improve.
By adopting the mindset of “pain is the signal from the Universe that help is on the way”, you may be able to relax more and more in your discomfort, whereby your condition will naturally improve.
Also remember that the essence of you comes from the spiritual realm. You are the child of the same super-intelligence that has created all living beings in all universes. In other words, you are love and health personified, in your pure state. So by training yourself to regain more and more of that love, you automatically improve your physical health as well.
PART 4: BEST LAW OF ATTRACTION QUOTES
In Part 4 the focus is on finding the best quotes on the Law of Attraction. The quotations below are not just about the practical manifestation of those things we desire, but also about the universe itself and our place in it.
Best Quotes on the Law of Attraction
- “Because the Law of Attraction is responding to the thoughts that you hold at all times, it is accurate to say that you are creating your own reality.” (Abraham-Hicks, Law of Attraction, p. 30)
- “We go back to our fundamentals: You create reality through your feelings, thoughts, and mental actions. Some of these are physically materialized, other are actualized in probable systems.” (Seth, Seth Speaks, p. 238)
- “The key to joyful deliberate creating is to choose the subjects of your thoughts intentionally while paying close attention to how each thought feels; for unless you are aware of how the thought feels, you have no understanding of where you are on the sliding scale of vibrational possibilities.” (Abraham-Hicks, The Amazing Power of Deliberate Intent, p. 29)
- “You form your own reality. If you are tired of having me stress that point, I can only say that I hope the repetition will serve to make you understand that the statement applies to the most minute and the most important of the events that you experience.” (Seth, The Individual and the Nature of Mass Events, p. 99)
- “Creation is not about making things happen through action. In fact, creating is not about making things happen at all. Creating is about allowing the thing that you desire to happen, and the allowing happens through Energy alignment, not through action.” (Abraham-Hicks, The Astonishing Power of Emotions, p. 57)
Best Quotes on Our Place in the Universe
- “This identity is your physical self through which now, in your terms, all expression must come. You are more than your temporal being alone. Your life as a creature is dependent upon your alliance with flesh. You will exist when your body is dead, but practically speaking, you will always be working through an image of yourself.” (Seth, The Nature of Personal Reality, p. 177)
- “You are far more Vibration and Energy than you are the physical Being that you recognize as you. And it is only when you understand yourself as a Vibrational Being that you will be able to acknowledge the Vibrational Energy continuum that is really you.” (Abraham-Hicks, The Amazing Power of Deliberate Intent, p. 15)
- “It is natural to live after death, and natural to return the body to earth and [then to] form another. It is natural for your thoughts to be as quick, responsive, and alive as viruses. It is natural for you to have probable selves as well as reincarnational existences.” (Seth, The Nature of Personal Reality, p. 122; square brackets in the original text)
- “You are not inferior Beings in need of enlightenment. You are not insignificant particles in a vast, unending Universe. You are not misguided or forgotten children trying to find your way home … You are powerful Leading-Edge creators riding the most significant wave of expansion that has ever occurred. And it is our desire that you return to your conscious awareness of this so that your time in this physical body can be one of deliberate, conscious joy!” (Abraham-Hicks, The Amazing Power of Deliberate Intent, p. 3)
- “The peculiar, particular aspects of your physical world are dependent upon your existence and focus within it. The physical universe does not contain physical objects of solidity, width and depth, for example, to those whose existence is not within it.” (Seth, Seth Speaks, p. 63)
Best Quotes on Manifesting Money
- “If the subject of money makes you uncomfortable when you think about it, it means that there is a strong desire related to it, which means that it really, really, really matters. So finding a way to think about it and feel good is your work. But it is equally effective to think about anything else and feel good–and let it in. You do not have to think about money in order to let in money. You just cannot think about lack of money and let in money.” (Abraham-Hicks, Ask and It Is Given, pp. 275-276)
- “The subject of money is really two subjects: (1) money, plenty of money, the feeling of freedom and ease that plenty of money can provide; and (2) absence of money, not nearly enough money, the feeling of fear and disappointment that the thought of absence of money induces.” (Abraham-Hicks, Money, and the Law of Attraction, p. 62)
- “Often the subject of money has many deep-rooted ties that you must find relief from or you will not allow yourself to turn and flow in the direction of the desires that your life has helped you to identify. In other words, it really is worth spending the time to find relief whenever you are keenly aware of negative emotions, because every time you make the effort, you release a bit more resistance.” (Abraham-Hicks, The Astonishing Power of Emotions, p. 121)
- “If you want more money but doubt that you can achieve it–you are not in balance. If you want more money but you believe there is something wrong in having money–you are not in balance. If you want more money and you are angry at those who have more money–you are not in balance.” (Abraham-Hicks, Money, and the Law of Attraction, p. 70)
- “…he continues to tell the story the way he wants it to be–so the Universe continues to yield to him. Now there are all kinds of people who say, ‘Oh, he’s a braggart. Oh, of course he can talk like that; he’s a billionaire.’ And we say, he was not always. He talked like that–and then he became that.” (Abraham-Hicks, The Amazing Power of Deliberate Intent, p. 275)
Best Quotes on Manifesting Relationships
- [The perfect coming-together vows:] “I do not take your life as my responsibility. I take my life as my responsibility. And I am looking forward to a very good time here. I am anticipating that as we move forward in this life together, we will have the ultimate of all positive experiences–because that is what I intend to look for. As long as we are having a good time, let us stay together. And if we should stop having a good time, let us separate–either in thought or in physicalness–until negative do us part.” (Abraham-Hicks, The Vortex, p. 145; my square brackets)
- “It is virtually impossible to evoke enough long-term changes from another to ever solve your interpersonal relationship. Most people try to evoke change in the other for a while but then either give up or move on. Asking others to change so that you can feel better never works.” (Abraham-Hicks, The Astonishing Power of Emotions, p. 67)
- “In order to find what you are calling the “perfect mate”, you must first be the perfect mate. In other words, you must consistently emit a Vibratory signal that matches the mate you desire.” (Abraham-Hicks, The Vortex, p. 95)
- “We could accurately say that the harder you try to make others happy, the more unhappy they become, because they become dependent on behavior outside of themselves (over which they have no control), rather than being in alignment within themselves (over which they have complete control).” (Abraham-Hicks, The Astonishing Power of Emotions, p. 136; my added parentheses and punctuation, for easier reading)
- “A consistently good-feeling relationship occurs when each of the parties involved is maintaining his or her own Connection with Source. There is no substitute for that relationship. There just is not another person who can love you enough to compensate for your lack of alignment with Source.” (Abraham-Hicks, The Vortex, p. 85)
Best Quotes on Manifesting Good Health
- “Someone asked us recently, ‘Is there any limitation to the body’s ability to heal?’ And we said, None, other than the belief that you hold. And he asked, ‘Then why aren’t people growing new limbs?’ And we said, Because no one believes they can.” (Abraham-Hicks, Ask and It Is Given, p. 287)
- “If you are in poor health, you can remedy it. If your personal relationships are unsatisfactory, you can change them for the better. If you are in poverty, you can instead find yourself surrounded by abundance.” (Seth, The Nature of Personal Reality, p. xviii)
- “The key to bringing your body to a new place is to see it differently from the way it is. … For as long as you are seeing your body as it is, you are contradicting the vibration of the idea of a slender body. You cannot create a new reality while looking at your current reality.” (Abraham-Hicks, The Astonishing Power of Emotions, p. 59)
- “One of the attitudes detrimental to good health is that of self-condemnation, or dislike of the self. Such attitudes are unfortunately sometimes fostered by parents, schools, and religions. Feelings of self-worth, self-esteem, and pleasure with one’s abilities promote feelings of well-being, health, and exuberance.” (Seth, The Way Toward Health, p. 148)
- “Since the cells of your body know what to do to come into balance, if you can find a way of focusing your attention upon good-feeling thoughts, you will stop your negative interference and your recovery will come.” (Abraham-Hicks, Money, and the Law of Attraction, p. 112)
- “To be healthy you must believe in health. A good physician is a changer of beliefs [in his or her patients]. He will replace an idea of illness with one of health. Whatever methods or drugs he uses will not be effective unless this change of belief takes place.” (Seth, The Nature of Personal Reality, p. 87; my square brackets)
PART 5: LAW OF ATTRACTION RESOURCES
In Part 5 the focus is on finding the best possible material for learning more about the Law of Attraction. In the following there are two sections worth reading: one section on the best books, and one section on those articles on this website that may be useful for the beginning student of the Law of Attraction.
Best Law of Attraction Books
There are many books on the Law of Attraction, and most of them are not recommended. So I am here going to mention just a few titles that may suit those who are interested in the Law of Attraction.
The first three books that I mention below (Chopra, Maltz, and Byrne) are only recommended as introductory texts, for they are not telling the whole story. Otherwise, for those who want a more complete and correct account of the Law of Attraction (in conjunction with information about the individual’s true place and purpose in the Universe), the titles by Abraham-Hicks and Seth are those that I wholeheartedly recommend.
First out is Deepak Chopra’s classic The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success, which is a decent book, especially for those who are inspired by Indian-flavored teachings (i.e., with discussions on karma and dharma, etc.). However, as I say in my review of Chopra’s book, his take on karma (and other details as well) is not in line with the standard account of Law of Attraction. So bear that in mind.
Next up is Maxwell Maltz’s Psycho-Cybernetics, which is, in general, a very inspiring book. As I also say in my review of Psycho-Cybernetics, it may be thought of as a “how to succeed with the Law of Attraction” type of book, and I regard it to be more practically useful than Chopra’s title. And don’t let its strange title discourage you from taking a look at it: Psycho-Cybernetics is very easy to read.
And the last of the three books is Rhonda Byrne’s The Secret. As I also point out in my review of her book, I do think that it is a better choice than Chopra’s title, if one is looking for a more accurate description of the Law of Attraction. Byrne’s book, just like Maltz’s title, is also much more practical in nature, and gives many tips on how the student should practically approach the idea of creative manifestation.
But Byrne’s book is nevertheless limited in several ways. So it is doubtful whether anyone who follows her advice actually would be able to create any manifestations in their own lives. However, it works well as an introduction.
When it comes to the authorized accounts of the Law of Attraction, the most popular ones are those authored by Abraham-Hicks. Although they have written six books on various aspects of the Law of Attraction, their best introductory book is probably their first one, Ask and It Is Given. But all the other five titles are excellent as well, and they add lots of information and practical processes and techniques to make manifesting work better.
Another set of authorized accounts of the Law of Attraction are the books by Seth, two of which are Seth Speaks and The Nature of Personal Reality. These are less popular than the Abraham-Hicks material, perhaps because they are written in a more academic style. Another reason may be that they are not focused only on manifestation, but are discussing all aspects of the individual and his place in the universe. So if you want the whole story on birth, death, reincarnation, afterlife, etc., then these are the books for you.
Articles on the Law of Attraction
Point of Attraction:
- Thoughts and the “Point of Attraction” – Wed 9 Feb 2022
- Point of Attraction (Topic) – Fri 25 Feb 2022
- Dear Chris: Abraham-Hicks’ 17-Second Rule Doesn’t Work for Me! – Sun 23 Jan 2022
- What Is the 17-Second Rule that Abraham-Hicks Talks About? – Mon 24 Jan 2022
- “Being in the Now” vs. “Law of Attraction” – Sat 1 Feb 2022
- The “No-Means-Yes” Principle of the Law of Attraction – Mon 21 Mar 2022
- Law of Attraction in Action: Google and the “No-Means-Yes” Principle – Mon 28 Mar 2022
- Book Review: Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz – Fri 27 Dec 2019
- Book Review: The Secret by Rhonda Byrne – Tue 29 Mar 2022
- Book Review: The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra – Wed 16 Feb 2022
Techniques and Practices:
- Moving Our Emotional Energy with the Law of Attraction – Sat 22 Jan 2022
- Where Is My Magnetic Power? – Wed 26 Jan 2022
- Designing My Day: Segment Intending and the Law of Attraction – Thu 27 Jan 2022
- Top 5 Ways to Attract More Money with the Law of Attraction – Wed 23 Mar 2022
(to be added)
- Byrne, Rhonda (2006), The Secret. London: Simon & Schuster UK. [Link to book]
- Chopra, Deepak (1994), The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success: A Practical Guide to the Fulfillment of Your Dreams. San Rafael, CA: Amber-Allen Publishing; and San Rafael, CA: New World Library. [Link to book]
- Hicks, Esther and Jerry Hicks (2004), Ask and It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires. Foreword by Wayne W. Dyer. Carlsbad, CA: Hay House, Inc. [Link to book]
- Hicks, Esther and Jerry Hicks (2006), The Amazing Power of Deliberate Intent: Living the Art of Allowing. Foreword by Louise L. Hay. Carlsbad, CA: Hay House, Inc. [Link to book]
- Hicks, Esther and Jerry Hicks (2006), The Law of Attraction: The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham. Foreword by Neale Donald Walsch. Carlsbad, CA: Hay House, Inc. [Link to book]
- Hicks, Esther and Jerry Hicks (2007), The Astonishing Power of Emotions: Let Your Feelings Be Your Guide. Carlsbad, CA: Hay House, Inc. [Link to book]
- Hicks, Esther and Jerry Hicks (2008), Money, and the Law of Attraction: Learning to Attract Wealth, Health, and Happiness. Carlsbad, CA: Hay House, Inc. [Link to book]
- Hicks, Esther and Jerry Hicks (2019), The Vortex: Where the Law of Attraction Assembles All Cooperative Relationships. Carlsbad, CA: Hay House, Inc. [Link to book]
- Maltz, Maxwell (2007), Psycho-Cybernetics. New York: Pocket Books. [Link to book]
- Roberts, Jane (1994), Seth Speaks: The Eternal Validity of the Soul. A Seth Book. Notes and cover art by Robert F. Butts. Reprint edition. San Rafael, CA: Amber-Allen Publishing; and Novato, CA: New World Library. [Link to book]
- Roberts, Jane (1994), The Nature of Personal Reality: Specific Practical Techniques for Solving Everyday Problems and Enriching the Life You Know. A Seth Book. Notes and cover art by Robert F. Butts. Reprint edition. San Rafael, CA: Amber-Allen Publishing; and San Rafael, CA: New World Library. [Link to book]
- Roberts, Jane (1995), The Individual and the Nature of Mass Events. A Seth Book. Notes and cover art by Robert F. Butts. Reissue edition. San Rafael, CA: Amber-Allen Publishing. [Link to book]
- Roberts, Jane (1997), The Way Toward Health. A Seth Book. Foreword, epilogue, notes, and cover art by Robert F. Butts. Illustrated edition [with photographs of Jane Roberts and Robert F. Butts]. San Rafael, CA: Amber-Allen Publishing. [Link to book]
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