True Positivity, Not Superficial Positivity: The Way to a Better Life

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This article deals with the subject matter of positivity: What is “superficial” positivity, and what is “true” positivity? And how can we recognize which is which?

KEYWORDS: Abraham-Hicks, authentic positivity, beliefs, emotions, feelings, I Know What You’re Thinking, law of attraction, Lillian Glass, philosophy, psychology, thoughts, toxic positivity.



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For a student of the Law of Attraction, it is important to be very clear about the idea of “positivity”.

Why? Because this term is used by different people in different ways. And the difference in meaning may radically affect one’s “results” in terms of one’s manifestations.

So the purpose of this post, then, is to talk about different “degrees” of positivity, and about ways to recognize which is which.

Are Most People Positive?

Previously, I have written articles on my N3-P3 negativity-positivity scale that I am using. And I have also written about my statistical evaluation, for different age groups, of where most people are at, emotionally speaking.

In the last article that I mentioned (“The Big Picture”) my estimation was that most people are in the mood of N1 (negative 1: somewhat negative), after which the next largest group are those in N2 (negative 2: medium negative).

So although it certainly is tricky to evaluate the emotional state of other people, I think it is fair to say that most people are not very positive. The overwhelming majority of people are in a mood of either N1 or N2.

Negativity/Positivity on Individual Topics

The general mood vibration described above is only a rough estimation of the average vibration of a particular person. This average vibration is composed of the individual vibration for every topic (i.e. subject) that he or she is currently thinking about.

So the same person can, for example, be in an N2 state when it comes to money (being angry that he or she does not have enough), while being in an N1 state when it comes to their health (being a little frustrated that they are, or perceive themselves to be, a little overweight).

Now, in a vibratory sense, such a person would be more positive in regard their health than their money. And this is determined by the aggregate of thoughts that they are thinking, for each of these subject matters.

Note, however, that even though the vibration on the theme of health is more positive than on the theme of money, we are still on the negative side of the negativity-positivity spectrum for both of these topics.

This means, practically speaking, that there is little positive manifestations around the corner, in regard to both of these themes. Instead, there are negative manifestations awaiting to be materialized.

Superficial Positivity

In order to prevent such negative manifestations, it is important to know one’s current “location” on the negativity-positivity spectrum, both for one’s general “mood”, as well as for one’s individual themes (subjects, topics).

And it is here that most people run into problems. For how can we accurately measure these vibrations? How can we know what state we are in?

Before we go into that, let us talk about my idea of “superficial positivity”. This is, in other words, a type of positivity that is superficial, or “fake”, or non-authentic.

Superficial positivity is something that is very common. It is used every day to give other people the impression that “everything is fine”, “everything is good”, “all is well”, etc.

Typically, we are not here talking about any strong positivity, when it comes to this superficial variant. We are just talking about a level of P1 (somewhat positive: slight hopefulness and optimism), and perhaps just a part of P1.

The reason for this is simply that it takes too much energy to play positive, when one is, in fact, not positive. So the superficial positivity is typically not very long-lasting either.

Superficial Positivity in Action (1)

Let’s look at a short example from I Know What You’re Thinking, by Lillian Glass.

In Chapter 9, when she is describing her fourteen personality types, she starts with “The Passive Aggressor” (p. 207):

“Passive aggressors may say they are ‘really happy’ for you and use all the right words, but in truth they are not happy for you at all. Their monotone delivery belies their words.”

So the idea here is that while the words may sound positive, the “monotone delivery” reveals their real state of mind.

The takeaway, then, is that when listening to others, one cannot trust people simply by listening to their words; one must observe also other things (such as their speech code, in this example) to get the whole story.

Superficial Positivity in Action (2)

The idea that words alone are not a true indicator of the mood of a person is not only useful in communication with other people; it is even more important when one spends time alone, trying to become better at applying the “rules” of the Law of Attraction.

Now, many “amateur” Law of Attraction students think that their words alone will produce good manifestations. So during their self-talk sessions they may say things such as:

“I want a new car. I must have a new car. I really need a new car, now that my old one is so crappy.”

Looking at these sentences, we can quickly get a sense for the underlying vibration of the person who is uttering these sentences; it is one of negativity (lack), not of positivity (abundance).

As Abraham-Hicks say in their Ask and It Is Given, when commenting on similar affirmations on the topic of “money” (p. 269):

“But you are offering empty, hollow words–that have no impact on your point of attraction whatsoever–because your words are not your point of attraction.”

So the idea is that since your words are not your point of attraction, the Law of Attraction simply does not act on them. Thus, it is not the words that create manifestations, it’s something else.

An Objection

But one of these “amateur” Law of Attraction students may now strongly object to these statements, and say that:

“But you [Abraham-Hicks] have previously mentioned on many occasions the rule that ‘you get what you think about’. So if I think ‘I want a new car’, why don’t I get a new car? So I *am* thinking about a new car, and I still don’t get one? Has your precious so-called ‘rule’ now changed to ‘you *don’t* get what you think about’?”

True Positivity

The “origin” of the confusion found in the above objection can be found in the principle that “every topic is, in reality, two topics”. Thus, Abraham-Hicks say in their Money, and the Law of Attraction (p. 44):

“Because every subject is actually two subjects–what is wanted and the lack of what is wanted–it is possible to believe that you are positively focused when in fact you are negatively focused.”

In other words, it is possible (for anyone, especially “amateurs”) to intellectually believe, to mentally deduce, that we are more positive than we actually are.

So in order to avoid being fooled by our own mind and intellect, we must avoid using our brain and mental faculties when we are trying to evaluate our focus. Instead we must use our emotions, our feelings.

Only when we evaluate our vibration with our emotions and feelings will we arrive at a trusthworthy estimation. And when our evaluation reports “positive”, then we can confidently say that we have achieved “true positivity“.

A Reply to the Objection

So when Abraham-Hicks replies to a similar objection (i.e. on doubting the “you get what you think about” principle) in The Amazing Power of Deliberate Intent, they say (p. 28):

“Some are beginning to acknowledge: You get what you think about. But we would like to clarify that statement further by saying: You get what you feel about what you think about.”

Thus, the important thing to bring home is that it is the feeling of whatever topic we are thinking about that is the true indicator of what our current vibration is. If that feeling feels good, then we are in positive territory; otherwise, we are in negative territory.


Since only true positivity will guarantee (mostly) pleasurable manifestations, it is of utmost importance for all students of the Law of Attraction to recognize their own “quality” of positivity:

Is my own attempt of being positive merely a “fake” positivity? Or is it true, real, and authentic?

Best of luck with your Law of Attraction work!

Chris Bocay


  • Glass, Lillian (2002), I Know What You’re Thinking: Using the Four Codes of Reading People to Improve Your Life. Hoboken, NJ: John Wiley & Sons, Inc. [Link to book]
  • Hicks, Esther and Jerry Hicks (2004), Ask and It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires. Carlsbad, CA: Hay House, Inc. [Link to book]
  • Hicks, Esther and Jerry Hicks (2006), The Amazing Power of Deliberate Intent: Living the Art of Allowing. Carlsbad, CA: Hay House, Inc. [Link to book]
  • Hicks, Esther and Jerry Hicks (2008), Money, and the Law of Attraction: Learning to Attract Wealth, Health, and Happiness. Carlsbad, CA: Hay House, Inc. [Link to book]

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First published: Tue 22 Feb 2022
Last revised: Sun 3 Sep 2023

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