The 9 Best Ways to Improve Your Positivity and Happiness

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Here are some of the best ways to discover more positivity, optimism, and happiness in your life. Try them out, to see which methods work best for you!

KEYWORDS: beliefs, emotions, feelings, happiness, law of attraction, manifesting, philosophy, post-manifestation positivity, pre-manifestation positivity, psychology, thoughts.



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This post is all about some good ways to increase your positivity, optimism, and happiness in your daily life.

I have divided this post into two main parts, which are equally important for the sincere positivity-searcher: in the first part I am talking about different types of positivity; in the second part I am focusing on the smaller, practical details.


Here in Part 1 I will cover four different types of positivity: pre-manifestation positivity, post-manifestation positivity, superficial positivity, and true positivity.

Improve Post-Manifestation Positivity

Most people are observers of “what-is”, and are therefore (mostly) only positive and optimistic right after things already have played out to their advantage. So their positivity (and happiness) hinges on desirable outcomes already having manifested.

Although this certainly is not a very powerful state of being (as compared to pre-manifestational positivity, which is much more powerful), it is still important to make the best out of this situation as well.

So right after you have experienced some good outcomes, it is very important that you keep that situation alive, and really “dive into it”, with your attention on it, many, many times during the rest of the day, and also the day after, and the day after that.

What you want to do is to really “milk it” by talking about it, writing about it, and discussing it, and, in any way, shape, or form, retell that story of your latest success, both to yourself and to others.

Note, though, that other people may not share your enthusiasm (if you have any enthusiasm, that is). So for most people, it is probably best not to share their successes with others, at least not more than once.

For the goal in this exercise is not to become famous or “well-liked” by other people, but to internally become more positive, optimistic, and happy.

Another point is that in “milking it” your goal is to “feel the juice”: so you want to really engage your positive emotions and let your body “awaken”, in order to energize it into a more positive state of being.

If you are not “feeling it”, then maybe you are not appreciating your success enough. So if the achievement is not “big enough” for you, then you may create a story that although it may not be a Neil Armstrong moment (“first step on the moon for humanity”), it may be a step that is the start of a bigger achievement. And that you are now celebrating (“milking”) not just that first step, but also the journey itself towards that bigger achievement.

Another way to handle the idea that your latest success is not “big enough” is to foster a less demanding “requirements specification” for yourself. Many people are driven to compete with others, and in the name of “the rat race” they are stressed out to reach their project manager’s deadline, or their CEO’s quest for more productivity.

But such competition does not, in my opinion, make them more positive or optimistic, but rather more stressed and worried. So it may be time for a change of environment (i.e. change of job), where there is time and opportunity to celebrate also the “small” things that happen every day. Smell the roses!

Transform Superficial Positivity

As I discussed in a previous article about the difference between true positivity and superficial positivity, the term “superficial positivity” refers to a type of positivity that is not “authentic”.

Now, since, in my estimation, most people in the Western world are not very positive or happy (when measured on my negativity-positivity spectrum), superficial positivity is much more prevalent in society than true positivity. [note 1]

The problem with superficial positivity is, however, that we cannot really “milk it” in the same way that we did with the post-manifestational positivity (above). For if we do that, we will not increase our true positivity; we will just increase our superficial positivity, which is not authentic. So what to do?

Since superficial positivity so often boils down simply to the offering of some positive-sounding words, while not being accompanied by any sincere positive emotions, it might be possible to transform one’s words in such a way that they are “painted” with emotions.

So if you just can add positive emotions when you are uttering those positive words, then you are on the right track to increase your authentic positivity.

However, I do realize that this may not be entirely easy, since the whole idea of superficial positivity is that it is practiced by people who are not positive enough.

And that situation is made worse by the fact that the Law of Attraction works in such a way as to maintain one’s mood (in this case, one’s negativity), by bouncing back similar (in this case, negative) thoughts.

So if one’s general mood is, say, N3 (“strong negative”) or N2 (“medium negative”), it may be difficult to generate those positive feelings.

But by practicing those discussions on one’s own (playing theater with yourself in your living room, for example), you may feel a greater freedom to experiment with adding your emotions to your words.

And if you also practice those discussions when you are well rested (for example in the early morning), it will be easier to find more positive energy to use in your play conversation, when you are “painting” your words with your positive emotions.

Improve Pre-Manifestation Positivity

One of most important types of positivity to master, as a student of the Law of Attraction, is your pre-manifestational positivity.

And the importance of it increases, the more negatively a person leans on the negativity-positivity spectrum.

So for a person with the general mood of, say, N3 (“strong negativity”), there a not so many positive manifestations to be happy about. All he or she gets is more or less a continuous stream of new diseases and new worries, etc. So in terms of post-manifestational positivity, there is little to be had.

Therefore, it is very important for such a person, who is inundated with negative vibrations, to start using his pre-manifestational positivity to be able to move forward. The idea is thus that he or she must start using their imagination (in the sense of either their “third eye” imaging, or in the sense of creating little stories that they tell themselves) to build up a positive attitude of their situation (and future possibilities).

It is also very important here, especially for those with medium and strong negativity, to continuously soothe themselves by saying things like “even if I’m in a troublesome situation, it is all right”, “even if it may feel bad right now, it is going to feel better”, “it may take some time to get more positive, but that’s all right; I have all the time in the world.”

So by “going general” (staying away from particular issues), and “being patient” (accepting the idea of an abundance of time), one may gradually raise one’s positive energy, so that one can cross that “balance” point (in between N1 and P1), and get over on the positive side of the spectrum (P1, P2, etc.).

It is also good to know to know that the hardest thing is to get the big train rolling in the oppositive direction. For a person in the mood of N3 can be likened to a high-speed train on the way to Negativity City. So it takes a lot of energy (and time) to first of all stop the train (i.e. to get to the balance point in between N1 and P1), after which it then will be gradually easier to increase the speed toward Positivity City.

Note also that practicing increasing your pre-manifestational positivity does not mean that you should stop practicing your post-manifestational positivity. Both of them should be “milked” as much as possible, as often as possible.

Increase True Positivity

Those who have learned how to manifest with the Law of Attraction already know that “fake” (or superficial) positivity is not the way to go. Insead they always try their best to achieve true, or authentic, positivity instead. This becomes easier and easier for them, the more their emotional range is pointed towards the positive side of the spectrum, rather than the negative side.

But even if such students already are, say, a P1 (“weakly positive”) or a P2 (“medium positive”), they still can improve their positivity. And the general principle is still the same: by “milking” both their pre-manifestational positivity and their post-manifestational positivity, they can generate more happiness for themselves.

And that is actually an important point: more happiness does not come by itself. Although surely some post-manifestational happiness may show itself now and then in an “automatic” fashion, we still have to realize that pre-manifestational positivity and happiness must be generated, by ourselves.

Therefore, we are the “dynamos” of our own positivity and optimism. And it is the mastery of such positive energy generation that gives us confidence in the process and in our own state of “living happily ever after”.


Here in part 2, I will point out some particular details that one must be aware of in order to build more positivity and happiness for oneself.

Increasing Length

As I have pointed out previously in this article, it is important to “milk” any appreciation as long as possible, in order to take a step up into higher vibrational territory.

When doing such “milking” it is good to be aware that there is actually an absolute time needed to establish such a higher vibration. That time is seventeen seconds, as discussed in “What Is the 17-Second Rule?” and in “Dear Chris: Abraham-Hicks’ 17-Second Rule Doesn’t Work for Me!

Apart from the 17-second limit, there is also another limit, namely the 68-second limit. While there are some small changes that happen during the first 17 seconds when holding a new, higher emotional ground, the first 68 seconds is really the main “minimum time increment” that one should be shooting for.

Thus, whenever you are trying to spiral up your positivity by appreciating a certain topic or state of affairs, the best thing is if you can keep it up for more than a minute at a time. It is all about reaching enough airtime in each round.

Increasing Frequency

Another way to increase airtime when engaging in appreciation and gratitude rounds is to return to such exercises several times a day.

For example, you could have a schedule where you have one chunk in the morning time, another chunk before lunch, and a third one before dinner.

Increasing Intensity

Another way to improve one’s positivity and happiness is to work on the intensity of the emotions that one is feeling. For the rule is that stronger emotions are more “efficient” in terms of physical manifestations.

So when we are trying to manifest more positivity and optimism in ourselves, one way is to try to feel stronger positive emotions about those topics that we decide to focus on.

For example, if we can raise our positive vibration in terms of the topic “my health”, that will translate to a higher “general” positivity as well.

Start Early

When we are speaking of techniques related to the Law of Attraction, it is always important to practice these in a very relaxed mood. It is imperative that you have as much positive energy as possible so that you can easily mobilize extra strength to do your appreciation rounds.

This means, practically speaking, that it is best to start out as early as possible in the day, as soon as you wake up. The most important thing is not to take a shower, or eat breakfast, or read your email, but to immediately focus on your positivity-increasing morning practices. That sets the mood for the whole day.

Whether these morning practices take 10 minutes or 3 hours is up to you. But these are crucial for you, if your goal is to increase your positivity day by day. If you don’t do these every day, you will most probably not improve your positivity, but rather, with most people, slowly slip down into more negativity.

In other words, you do not want to have a schedule where you try to do such exercises in the evening time. That will most probably not work either.

The realization you must have is that positivity is the most important thing in your life; it’s not your job, it’s not your money, and it’s not your relationship. The most precious thing you have is your positivity and optimism and happiness. If you only have those three things, everything else will also work out. So do your positivity exercises in the morning time. Always.

Better Blood Sugar Control

Just as our positivity is dependent on how well rested we are (see”Start Early” above), our positivity is also dependent on our blood sugar.

So if your general mood is not so positive, it might be because you need to eat something.

Therefore, in such a situation, you need to take an appropriate amount of food (preferably with low GI, glycaemic index), so that your system can quickly bounce back into positivity, optimism, and happiness.


The most precious thing we have in our lives, whether we realize it or not, is our positivity, optimism, and happiness. If those three things are not there, life will be far from the exciting journey it otherwise could be.

I am therefore hopeful that some of these “tricks” can help you get some good vibes going in your life, and that you will gradually improve your positive emotional state day by day.

Until next time: best of luck with your positivity-building processes!

Chris Bocay


  1. My negativity-positivity spectrum is also discussed in other places, for example in my article on what self-acceptance is really about and its connection to the idea of self-love.

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First published: Sun 1 May 2022
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