Chris Bocay on Positive Self-Realization

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This is the first post on Chris Bocay’s system of Positive Self-Realization (PSR), where Law of Attraction is combined with other principles and techniques.

KEYWORDS: Abraham-Hicks, beliefs, emotions, feelings, law of attraction, philosophy, psychology, purpose of life, self-realization, selfishness, Seth, thoughts, worldviews, worthiness.



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There are many books written on the Law of Attraction as a “manifestation philosophy” or as a “manifestation tool”. The general sales argument is that “manifestations are easy”, and that they can be accomplished by most people with some relatively simple technique or practice.

But in my experience, there is nothing simple or easy about the Law of Attraction, other than, perhaps, the main rule itself: “like attracts like”.

So although it certainly may be very tempting to try to manifest (for many, without any financial resources at all) a new house on the beach, or a new orange Lamborghini, the usual story is that it doesn’t work, for most people.

The purpose of this blog post is therefore to create a new system where I outline different things that are connected to the Law of Attraction, all of which may have an impact on whether the manifestations will be quick, or slow, or not show up at all.

Now, this is admittedly a complex topic, and one which may take many blog posts to sort out. But for today, let’s start sketching out some things that are important in my system of Positive Self-Realization (PSR).


Since Positive Self-Realization is a system of various topics, it is now time to introduce some of these topics.

Law of Attraction

There is no doubt that the Law of Attraction is one of the core components of my PSR system. This whole material existence is about desires and the fulfillment of those desires.

Therefore, there is, in my view, no real self-realization without the Law of Attraction. [note 1]

Most other schools of thought that speak of “self-realization”, however, do not include the Law of Attraction. But they do, at least, take “the self” (in a broader, metaphysical sense) very seriously, which I think is a very good idea. And I will return to that later.

The type of Law of Attraction that I am referring to in my PSR system is the variant that comes directly from authoritative non-physical sources. Thus I am here referring to the extensive accounts of Seth and Abraham-Hicks, which together constitute the complete rules of the game.

My basic rule is therefore that I am not frequently using ideas from other authors. Thus, I am not normally composing my texts as a collage of ideas from a large number of Law of Attraction-type authors (such as, for instance, in Rhonda Byrne’s The Secret).

The reason for my policy is that I want to maintain the original ideas of the Law of Attraction. However, if some other author has a technique or process or insight that may be helpful and is also “compatible” with the Seth and Abraham-Hicks accounts, I potentially may use such ideas here and there.

Self-Realization: Spiritual Identity

One of the most common strategies for “ordinary” (i.e., not non-physical) authors of Law of Attraction books is the decision to cut out most, or all, references to our Inner Being (or Soul, or Higher Self, etc.).

This is, in my view, a mistake. One reason for this is that if we do not understand who we really are, how can we properly understand the workings of the Law of Attraction, and the Vortex?

So one of the reasons why my system contains the word “self-realization” is simply because one component of really mastering the Law of Attraction is knowing our Inner Being better.

If we do not know our Inner Being, how can we else understand the mechanics of beliefs and emotions and their impact on gross physical and fine-physical manifestations?

Self-Realization: Purpose and Meaning

Another question that the Law of Attraction student might ask oneself is: Is it really true that our purpose and meaning here is “just” to create new desires and to manifest those new desires? Isn’t that “too shallow”? Isn’t that “too unserious”?

The answer, of course, is simply that that is not the whole story. There are many purposes and paths available in the totality of existence, and it is important to know about them. So this is one avenue that a serious student of the Law of Attraction might be interested to explore.

Therefore, my PSR system will contain information about some such purposes and meanings.

What Is Possible and Not Possible?

Another path of investigation is the search for potentiality: What, exactly, is “possible” or “impossible” for humans to know, to do, and to manifest?

Questions such as: Is ESP real? Can humans levitate? Can humans regrow their limbs after an accident? Can humans cure diseases that commonly are thought to be lethal or fatal?

The reason that this is important is naturally for us to save time and energy: if there is some universal principle that, say, prevents ourselves from curing certain diseases or conditions, it is good to know about it, before we try to do it.

So by avoiding trying to do it (if it is impossible) not only saves us the trouble from not succeeding with that particular project; it also saves us from losing faith in the Law of Attraction itself.

Adjustment of Scientific Worldview

In order to be really confident in the Law of Attraction creation process, one must have full faith in the Law of Attraction material, as a whole. Only if one accepts (and loves!) the Law of Attraction material fully will one be able to manifest in a really optimal way. That is why it is so important to really master the Law of Attraction, to take it seriously.

But how can one accept the Law of Attraction material fully? For example, in my article Seth on Darwin and Darwinian Evolution I presented Seth’s observations that Darwinian evolution is false, and that the real story about evolution has nothing to do with biology or physical matter.

So the challenge then, for a student of the Law of Attraction, is to (gradually) learn to accept that Darwin was wrong, and that Seth is right. Only then can the student develop full faith in the Law of Attraction process.

And the challenge doesn’t stop there. There are dozens of so-called “scientific” ideas that has to be abandoned. Another one is the idea that the brain and the mind are synonymous, or nearly so. But that is not true either, according to Seth.

And the list goes on. So the adjustment of Worldview is a big part of a serious student of the Law of Attraction, and therefore something that will be discussed within my Positive Self-Realization system.

Adjustment of Religious Worldview

It is not just the scientific worldview that contains elements that are non-conducive to the acceptance of the Law of Attraction teachings. There are also various religious ideas that have the same function.

One such idea is the idea of “Hell”, in the sense of a “destination” in an afterlife. So the challenge here is that one must (gradually) abandon that idea, and instead adopt the idea that true afterlife is always ecstatic.

The resolution of this issue might, for some, actually have a greater effect than the resolution of the adjustments needed in terms of the scientific worldview. For by abandoning the idea of a “hell”, the student might release, partly or wholly, his or her deep fears connected to the idea of a “hell”.

Another challenge (for example, for Christians) is the idea of reincarnation. Normally, as I understand it, Christians do not believe in reincarnation. So the challenge is then for such students to understand that reincarnation is true, and that they will have to be born thousands, or millions, of times in the future.

This information may be hard to swallow for some, which then, in my estimation, will hinder their development of their Law of Attraction skills and abilities.

Thus, my system of Positive Self-Realization will therefore develop ways to understand these issues, so that the student quicker can come to a more solid acceptance of the original Law of Attraction material.

Self-Esteem and Worthiness Issues

Another stumbling block for some is deep self-esteem and worthiness issues. These may come from a religious upbringing (as seen in Jay Adam’s book The Biblical View of Self-Esteem), or from other unfavorable circumstances in one’s childhood.

The idea is therefore that one must gradually learn to abandon one’s low self-esteem and increase one’s self-love, so that one actually is convinced that one is worthy of everything that one desires, regardless of what it is.

In other words, a student of the Law of Attraction must develop a sense of flow: that he naturally deserves whatever it is that he desires–and that there’s no question about it.


A true student of the Law of Attraction must learn the hard lesson: He must develop his personality in such a way that he becomes truly selfish.

In other words, there is no delicate “fine line” here to master: the student must learn to navigate in the world of other people, and in doing so, must learn to avoid to invoke empathy or sympathy for others and their sometimes troublesome situation.

Selfishness involves the idea to not be so interested in other people. It is not in the student’s best interest to be understanding, or listen to other people presenting their personal problems.

The student must learn ways to handle other people quickly and efficiently, so that he does not lose his own positive energy.

Thus, my system of Positive Self-Realization will therefore present ways to handle various situations, so that the student will have enough positive energy to continue with his deliberate creation.

The Fostering of Fun

The last category of information for a student of the Law of Attraction deals with the concept of “Fun”.

Manifestation must be FUN! But it can only be fun, if it actually works. So by adopting all of these perspectives that I have described above, then one will have a good base to work from.

So all that is needed then, is just to also add some positive energy, and a “non-serious” attitude. For, as Abraham-Hicks so often says: “There is nothing serious going on here”. [note 2]


I have here outlined some of the core ideas of my Positive Self-Realization system. I am expecting that the actual labels may change a bit in the future, but that the basic ideas presented here will continue to be relevant.

Best wishes to all students of the Law of Attraction!

Chris Bocay


  1. There are various articles on self-realization on my site. Self-Realization and the Meaning of Life talks about purpose of life, about “perfecting oneself”, about the difference between self-realization and self-actualization, and about the connection to artistic creativity deliberate manifestation; Perspectives on Self-Realization investigates various viewpoints on self-realization, both from a religious point of view and a philosophy point of view; Self-Realization (General) describes a number of philosophical points about the concept of the term “self-realization”.
  2. When Abraham-Hicks say “There is nothing serious going on here”, they are referring to anything that is happening on planet Earth, at any time, in any place.

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