How can we soften our belief wall on a particular topic, if our belief wall is currently non-positive and thus not conducive to manifesting our desires? One way is to “decorate” it with a special “add-on” technique.
KEYWORDS: belief wall, beliefs, emotions, feelings, law of attraction, philosophy, psychology, techniques, the ‘But Only’ move, the ‘Unless’ move, thoughts.
As some readers may know, I have rather recently published an article titled Your Belief Wall: Does It Support Your Desired Manifestations?
In that post I talked about my “Belief Wall” analogy, where our beliefs (and thoughts) practically resemble bricks, which combine together to form a whole wall.
So the problem is this: If the cement has dried, and our bricks contain beliefs that are negative (i.e. not serving us), how can we improve on that?
PART 1: INTRODUCTION
When the “cement” has dried into a solid form, the belief wall as a whole also becomes rock solid. To illustrate a typical (non-positive) belief wall, let us look at Chelsea’s belief wall on the topic of “meat”:
So here we see that Chelsea has various beliefs that do not serve her. For example, her detailed “knowledge” about the cholesterol and various additives in red meat contributes to her “confusion” about eating meat: she likes the taste of it, but she is convinced that there are things in it that isn’t good for body.
As if that wasn’t enough, she also thinks about animal ethics. How can we kill the cows, when they in India are considered to be our mother?
These conflicting thoughts are not a major problem if she decides to abstain from meat altogether. But if she likes the taste of the meat, and eats it anyway, then she will have to “take the consequences” of the fact that she will feel emotionally bad when eating meat (which is the indication that she must change her belief about meat in order not to sabotage her own health).
In other words, without changing her beliefs about meat, she can never reach optimal health. She must believe that meat is excellent food to eat, just as her carrots and kale are.
Remember that I said above that when the “cement” has dried into a solid form, the belief wall as a whole also becomes rock solid? Well, that is very nice, if all the belief bricks contain purely positive beliefs.
But it isn’t so nice, if most of our beliefs are non-positive in nature. For how can we then change them into positive ones, if the “cement” is dry? How can we then remove the negative bricks, and replace them with positive bricks?
So this question is really important for a student who tries to become an expert at the Law of Attraction: for how can he or she transition from a (large) set of interconnected negative beliefs to a more positive state?
PART 2: WHAT ARE MY OPTIONS?
What options do we have? Is it even possible to remove the negative bricks? Probably not. Why? Because each belief brick is, in a very robust and solid way, attached with cement to all the other bricks around it. Which makes it really hard to remove them.
But what if we don’t have to remove them, to change them? What if they could just be where they are?
At this point we have two options. The first option is to never look at our (non-positive) belief wall ever again. That is, to never bring up those old beliefs again. Never talk about them, never think about them, never discuss them with friends, and never blog about them. But how likely is that?
So our second option is that we might decide to “decorate” our particular belief wall in a particular way, as to “soften” it. The idea is that we want to diminish the force of certain non-positive beliefs, so that they will serve us better, in terms of providing better manifestations. But how exactly do we do that?
The Add-On Technique
First of all, we have to remember that all of us are having many belief walls to “manage”. In fact, each of us have hundreds or thousands of belief walls on different topics: health, food, money, relationships, dogs, apartments, etc.
This means that there is a clear need for effective techniques that accommodate quicker changes.
Now, the general idea of the “Add-On” technique is this. Instead of trying to “rewrite” or “edit” a current belief into something more positive-sounding, let us just keep the original belief as it is. It is, literally set in stone, and we thus don’t want to mess with it.
Of course, if we could just leave that non-positive belief alone for a week, or a month, or a year, then we could effectively deactivate it. But most people cannot abandon their non-positive beliefs, especially those which are “nurtured” with lots of emotional energy, during a long time (years and years).
And it is not just a matter of “internal willpower” either. It is also a matter of “fitting in”. For, like a spider’s web, people have created roles and behavior for themselves that fit their current place in society (behaving as a parent, behaving as a teacher, behaving as a married man, etc.). So it’s hard to avoid returning to those non-positive beliefs that are not serving you.
The “But Only” Move
In this post I am going to present two varieties of the Add-On technique. The first one I call the “But Only” Move.
The general idea of the Add-On technique is that we are simply adding another sentence, or phrase, to the already existing belief. And in this first move, it is the words “but only”.
So let us go back to Chelsea’s belief wall, and make a “But Only” Move. Let’s start with the belief brick “there’s too much fat in red meat” (in the upper right of the picture). So we have:
1.There’s too much fat in red meat.
Now let’s just add “but only”, and then figure out something that would “soften” or “downplay” that sentence:
1a.There’s too much fat in red meat, but only if it’s non-organic.
So here we are using the idea that organic and non-organic circumstances may lead to less or more fat in the meat.
Please note that we are, in this article, not so interested in whether it is actually true or not that the amount of fat is dependent on whether we are dealing with organic or non-organic beef; what we are interested in, however, is the general idea of “softening” or “downplaying” the belief that is expressed in Sentence 1 (S1).
And that downplaying can only be achieved if you believe the new thing that you are adding to the original sentence. So if you believe that an organically raised cow normally has less fat than a non-organic one, then that is all that is needed.
In other words, the “add-on” must make you believe less in the original belief (S1); the “add-on” must soften or downplay the original non-positive statement. If you don’t believe what is expressed in the “add-on”, then the “add-on” will not soften the non-positive statement.
A second example is this:
1b.There’s too much fat in red meat, but only for those who have a Kapha constitution.
So if we already are followers of Ayurveda and we believe the whole story about Kapha, Vata, and Pitta constitutions, then we might downplay it like this. But another requirement is, of course, that we are not Kapha ourselves, and that we are aware of that. For if we are either Vata or Pitta, then we do not have the same restrictions in regard to eating fat.
A third way to spin it could be:
1c.There’s too much fat in red meat, but only if their fodder was soy beans.
Thus, if we are of the opinion that soy beans will make cows more fat, then this add-on will soften the original sentence.
The “Unless” Move
A similar effect to the “But Only” Move can be found in the “Unless” Move. By adding a sentence or phrase starting with “unless”, we can soften or downplay the original sentence.
So let’s look at this sentence of Chelsea’s (upper left in the picture):
2.Meat is also too expensive.
The idea now, as before, is to try to “soften” this sentence. So we could do something like this:
2a.Meat is also too expensive, unless I can get it at a special price.
Adding the idea that one can get it at a special price will then effectively lessen the resistance to the original sentence. But it, of course, requires also that we actually believe that we (sometimes at least) can get it at a discounted price, in a local shop somewhere.
Another way to spin it could be:
2b.Meat is also too expensive, unless it is imported from China.
This “add-on” probably does not work. Why? Because even though one very well might believe that meat could be cheaper if it came from China, one might not as easily believe that such a food item would be very healthy, or tasty, if it came thousands of miles away. [note 1]
So buying locally instead, one might use something like this:
2c.Meat is also too expensive, unless I buy it locally at the farmer’s market.
Although it may not be so easy to remove our “belief bricks” from our “belief wall”, we can do the second next best thing, namely to use some of these “add-on” techniques.
By “adding on” sentences and phrases to our already existing beliefs, we can “soften” and “downplay” them.
Good luck with your Law of Attraction practices!
- When it comes to food, it is of course very important that our beliefs are such that we think the food is very good for us, in terms of our health and our desired body shape. For more on this, see My Thoughts, Not My Foods, Determine My Health and Body Shape.