It Is Always Possible to Improve Your Emotional Point of Attraction

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This article is about the idea that it is always possible to improve your point of attraction, your vibrational frequency, no matter where on the negativity-positivity scale you are currently at.

KEYWORDS: Abraham-Hicks, beliefs, emotions, feelings, focusing, law of attraction, manifesting, negativity-positivity spectrum, philosophy, point of attraction, psychology, thoughts.



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This blog post deals with the wonderful idea that regardless of where we currently are situated within our emotional range, we can always improve our vibrational frequency so that we will become more energetic and positive.

This movement of our emotional point of attraction is not always easy to accomplish. And in some circumstances it may actually take a considerable time as well.

But the overall promise (from Abraham-Hicks) is clear: it is always possible to shift our vibration toward a more positive stance, so that we eventually will reach that desired state.

So let’s look at some ideas of what we might do, and what type of results we may expect.

Shifting Our Vibration To a Higher Frequency

The first step is to identify the need to shift our vibration to a more positive frequency. And then, of course, to practically set the whole thing in motion.

In our universe, there is a relationship between frequency of our vibration and the amount of positivity and joy that we are allowing ourselves.

So the more we can increase the frequency of our vibration, or point of attraction, the more positive and joyful we are.

The Universe FM Radio Receiver

We can compare this idea with the radio stations available on the fictitious radio receiver called “Universe FM”: On 89.2 FM we have a radio station called “Complaint Corner”, where people vent their problems, and where (so-called) experts explain what to do about it. So this is fairly negative radio station.

But higher up, at 95.3 FM, we have a radio station called “My Memories”, which feature famous persons and their own life stories. This is a station where there is a fairly even mix of stories of failures and stories of successes (before success often comes failure or failures).

And even higher up, at 101.5 FM, we have a radio station called “Goosebump Central”, where the most amazing and refreshing and uplifting stories and ideas are narrated by energized readers with beautiful and inspiring voices and articulation.

So the energy scale is going from lower frequencies to higher frequencies. And the higher frequencies are more positive and joyous than the lower frequencies.

Note, of course, that the “real” frequencies of our personal emotional vibrations are not on the FM scale (they are much higher); the FM scale I have used above only serve as a way to illustrate, conceptually, that negative vibrations are vibrating more slowly than positive vibrations are.

‘I Can Reach Any Thought I Want’

The most powerful “rule” that Abraham-Hicks talks about in this context is the idea that all thoughts are possible, for any person.

So in Abraham-Hick’s own words (Ask and It Is Given, p. 91):

“Of course, there is no thought that you cannot eventually have.”

But this statement needs to be elaborated on. Because the word “eventually” is not just put into that sentence by mistake, or as a “filler”; rather, it is very important.

Abraham-Hicks’s idea is that it may be cumbersome and time-consuming to be able to reach that thought. For if that new thought is far off from the usual thoughts that you are thinking, then Law of Attraction will keep you from getting there.

But the positive thing about this statement is that it is possible to reach it, eventually. So it is not impossible, if you really want it.

Why Can’t I Think Any Thought, At Any Time?

So then we might ponder the following scenario.

Let’s say that you are in a bad mood and your friend Eve (who is into the Law of Attraction) meets up with you in the local coffee shop. And she shows you her own affirmation sheet, with lots of positive sentences such as “I am getting more and more successful every day”, “My health is getting better and better”, and “I love my life more and more”, etc.

Now, when you see this sheet of affirmations, do you not have to think those sentences that you read? I mean, it seems so obvious that you can think those sentences that are presented on that sheet of paper. How else could you evaluate them?

So what does Abraham-Hicks mean, then, when they say (Ask and It Is Given, p. 91): “it does not necessarily mean that you can go directly to that thought right now”?

One way to understand their sentence, is to say that it is not merely about uttering, or reading, or understanding the thought (or idea, or sentence, or proposition). Rather it is also about accepting it, and then feeling good about it. It’s the feeling that we want to have. It’s the feeling that is the most important.

Another way to understand what they mean is to say that it has to do with “internal” manifestations (within your “mind”). If your current emotional point of attraction is too negative, Law of Attraction will only bounce back similarly negative thoughts. So in that mood of yours you will not get presented (within your “mind”) with a proposition that is very positive.

Stretch It Out To Get Relief

So what do we do when we really would like to be in some else’s shoes, who seems to be so happy and joyful all the time? I mean, if the emotional distance from our own point of attraction to their point of attraction is substantial, or even great, then it seems almost impossible to reach it.

The advice from Abraham-Hicks is to not think like that. According to them, nothing is impossible. In fact, the more positive we get, the less impossible it gets. It’s just a stuck vibration that we have to “loosen up” by not thinking that it is impossible.

One strategy here is that we have to start telling ourselves that “we are where we are, and that’s OK”. So we must avoid comparing ourselves to others. The only thing we are concerned about is the idea of “relief”: we should always soothe ourselves when we come to think about things that are negative.

So we “strech out” our beliefs as far positive they can go, to soothe ourselves. For example, if you are thinking this:

“Why am I not as happy as my friend is?”

…then you might be able to “stretch out” or “modify” that sentence a bit, in order to feel just a little bit better (which is the whole strategy here):

“I may not be as happy as my friend is, right now, but I am doing better now than before. So I am on my way to more positivity.”


The takeaway here is that it is always possible to improve your point of attraction, so that you eventually can reach those super-positive thoughts.

Meanwhile, though, just move up the emotional negativity-positivity scale one small step at the time, focusing on relief, whereby you “stretch out” those negative thoughts to become more positive in nature. The goal is to feel a little better, each time you are doing it.

Therefore, becoming successful with the Law of Attraction is typically mostly about this: it’s the art of gradually shifting one’s point of attraction in such a way as to make it more positive.

So regardless where we are on the vibrational (emotional) scale, we are all basically doing the same thing: we are soothing ourselves whenever we encounter negative thoughts and emotions, and we are then trying to shift those thoughts and emotions towards the positive.

Good luck with your Law of Attraction exercises!

Chris Bocay


  • Hicks, Esther and Jerry Hicks (2004), Ask and It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires. Foreword by Wayne W. Dyer. Carlsbad, CA: Hay House, Inc. [Link to book]

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First published: Sat 29 Jan 2022
Last revised: Sun 3 Sep 2023

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