In today’s Dear Chris column, the question is asked: I have tried, for a long time, to manifest my new car, but I just cannot make it work. What am I missing? What should I do differently?
KEYWORDS: Abraham-Hicks, allowing, attention, emotions, feelings, focusing, law of attraction, manifesting, techniques.
I am a 19-year old man who is having trouble with the Law of Attraction. Although I have studied the Law of Attraction for many years (and my mother also always played Abraham-Hicks workshops on our stereo when I grew up), I cannot say that I have succeeded with my manifestations. And this is strange, because I am a very methodical and “strictly by the rules” kind of person.
My main “issue” right now is, as always, my car. It’s getting older and older and I really must have a new one. This situation has been going on for a few years now. But no matter what I do, my new car, along with the money to buy it, seem to have got “stuck” in my Vortex, somehow. But I really need that new car for work, and for commuting.
In terms of practices and processes, I have been concentrating on getting my focusing right. So I have been very careful to think A LOT on my new car (for it is about “airtime”, as well as “focus”, is it not?). But it hasn’t showed up yet.
What am I missing? What should I do differently?
Thank you very much for your interesting question.
First, I do want to remind you that every person’s situation and circumstances are unique. So I may not be fully aware of all the details of your life, or of the complete extent of your “practices and processes”. That means that my evaluation might have some “holes” in it, in terms of being “complete”. Nevertheless, I still hope that my “philosophical ideas” and general points below will be of some assistance.
Note especially that these “philosophical ideas” and general points do not constitute professional counseling advice. You yourself have to evaluate my ideas, according your own complete situation and circumstances. And you yourself also have to decide, on your own, what to do about these “philosophical ideas” and general points that I am offering here.
Now, where should I start? Well, I think the best thing is to begin with those points that you seem to have understood mostly right. So “airtime” is one of those points.
Yes, airtime really matters. This is why advertising agencies so many times tell their clients to buy television or radio airtime. This is because whenever such an ad is broadcast, it renews, or refreshes, or “reactivates”, the message in the minds of the audience, and “cements” both the product and the “brand” into their vibrations.
So airtime is very important, as you have already pointed out. So keep that up.
Focus and Attention
Focus is also important. And you have understood that, to some extent, as well. So if we want to manifest a new car, we must be focusing our thoughts on that car (unless we follow the “avoidance” tactic below).
In other words, the “recipe” is that we must give our attention to the new car. Whether we see it in “real life” or we imagine it in our mind’s eye, doesn’t matter. But we must give it our attention. The new car is the “star of the show”, and we must then focus in on it.
The problem here, though, is that this is not enough. There are more details to consider before we can consider ourselves “deliberate manifesters”.
And this is why Abraham-Hicks says the following in The Amazing Power of Deliberate Intent (p. 27):
“Deliberate creation is much more than just deliberately choosing a subject of attention and focusing upon it.”
Every Topic Is Two Topics
One of the stumbling blocks on the road to “predictable manifestations” is the idea that every topic is two topics. This idea is found in many places in Abraham-Hicks’s books, and one such place is this (Money, and the Law of Attraction, p. 44):
“Because every subject is actually two subjects–what is wanted and the lack of what is wanted–it is possible to believe that you are positively focused when in fact you are negatively focused.”
So you may perhaps be focusing on a sentence like this in your practices: “I need a new car” or “I must have a new car”. Or even “When will my new car be manifested?”
The problem here is that all three sentences are negatively focused. Sure, the attention is on the new car. But all three sentences (thoughts) reveal that you are not yet having it.
Another point is that we must always ask ourselves why we want what we want (in this case, your new car). So why do you want your new car?
Basically the only “correct” answer is something like this: “I want it because I just love it.” Alternatively, we could say something like this, “I want it just because. For I am worthy of it.”
The point I am trying to make is that you do not want it because it will solve a problem. So you cannot want your new car because you have an old car that is falling apart or is otherwise problematic.
So in these examples (if you are doing something similar to these things), we then have a “double-issue”.
For not only are you focused on the lack of your new car (“I need it”, “I must have it”, etc.), but you are also holding yourself in a negative space when you are using your problematic old car as a “reason” for why you want your new car.
Thus, if this is what you have been doing, then it is no wonder that it hasn’t yet manifested in your physical experience. You have been mostly negatively focused. You need to instead become overwhelmingly positively focused.
Getting the Feel of It
The most important tool you have in getting this right is your own feelings or emotions. Without using your emotions, you cannot safely conclude how well you are doing.
The question you should ask yourself when thinking about your new car is: does this thought feel good to me, or bad?
Abraham-Hicks says in The Amazing Power of Deliberate Intent the following thing, on the topic of “abundance” (p. 28):
“Which end of this vibrational range are you leaning toward? Are you a closer match to the magnificent abundance, or are you a closer match to the desperate absence of abundance?”
So that is the core question that you (or anyone) should ask about the topic in question (in your case, the new car).
And how do you tell which is which? By following one’s feelings, one’s emotions (in The Amazing Power of Deliberate Intent, p. 28):
“You can easily answer this question when you understand your emotions, for it is through emotional awareness that you understand the vibrational content of your thoughts. The way you feel as you are focusing thought is really what matters most.”
Avoiding the Topic
One important thing to consider, though, is the actual topic of your attention and focus. It is very difficult (for anyone) to really transform a negative thought-world (about a particular topic) into a positive one, especially if one has “struggled with it” for many years.
Many students who are trying to get good at deliberate creation with the Law of Attraction think that they have to stay with the particular topic that they are trying to manifest.
So, for example, if I am “struggling with” the topic of “a new car”, then I have to actively shift my vibration on, and around, that very topic (to make it more positive), before anything can happen, manifestation-wise.
A better route, for some, may be to instead skip the topic altogether. This is confirmed by Abraham-Hicks in their Ask and It Is Given, in a discussion on achieving physical health (p. 289):
“Do you have to think specific positive thoughts about your body in order for it to be the way you want it to be? No. But you have to not think the specific negative thoughts.”
Thus, the first instruction is to skip ALL thoughts about the body: so no negative thoughts and no positive thoughts. For the positive thoughts may trigger associations with the negative thoughts, since often the negative thoughts are the main reason one wants to get well (i.e. the negative thoughts are the “reasons” for why one wants to think the positive thoughts).
Instead, just think positive thoughts about any other thing (topic, subject) or things (topics, subjects). So Abraham-Hicks continues their discussion (p. 289):
“If you could never again think about your body and, instead, just think pleasant thoughts, your body would reclaim its natural place of wellness.”
So in your case, if you choose this method or process, you should avoid all topics that are related to your car (old car as well as new car), and instead spend your time appreciating other subjects such as your lovely cat, or your wonderful garden, or your fantastic new iPhone, etc. etc.
I am hoping that some of these points have been helpful to you.
My last point is this. Remember that your life is a journey, and that it is supposed to be full of joy and happiness. Life is not (or should not be) mainly about acquiring (expensive, hard-to-get) material things, but more about all the countless moments that make up that journey. So don’t forget to relax, laugh, and have a lot of fun along the way!
- Hicks, Esther and Jerry Hicks (2004), Ask and It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires. Foreword by Wayne W. Dyer. Carlsbad, CA: Hay House, Inc. [Link to book]
- Hicks, Esther and Jerry Hicks (2006), The Amazing Power of Deliberate Intent: Living the Art of Allowing. Foreword by Louise L. Hay. Carlsbad, CA: Hay House, Inc. [Link to book]
- Hicks, Esther and Jerry Hicks (2008), Money, and the Law of Attraction: Learning to Attract Wealth, Health, and Happiness. Carlsbad, CA: Hay House, Inc. [Link to book]
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